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Setting a 28 Day Goal (or how I learned to do the dishes)

I'm setting a 28 day goal to change my life and I'm going to track my change one day at a time!
Mom Improvement Presents: Setting a 28 Day Goal

In my last post, I talked about setting a goal and creating your path to completion, and I gave you a worksheet to help!  Now, it’s time to talk about the benefits of making your goal a “28 Day Goal”.  This will help you be more successful and intentional with whatever it is you plan to do!  If this post makes you want to change any of your answers in the last worksheet, or set a different goal, or change your methods for achieving your goal, that’s no problem!  You can always print out a new worksheet to revise your plan!

Small Goal, Big Surprise

Sometimes big life changes come in small packages.  In my last post, I mentioned that I took 90 Day Budget Boot Camp.  I can’t recommend it highly enough.  I feel like I’m a pretty darn good budgeter and I still learned so much.  PS- I’m not paid to recommend that course, I do so because it’s just a great course!

Probably the biggest, most beneficial takeaway of the whole camp was the “do your dishes” assignment.  The rules were simple: at night, after dinner, you had to clear your sink.  Run the dishwasher, do the dishes by hand, Rosemarie didn’t care how, it just had to get done.

Are you skeptical?  I totally was.  How were my dishes- dirty or clean- impacting my budget?  How was getting them done going to help me pay down our credit cards?  While the direct correlation between budget and dishwasher might be hard to draw… it really does make a HUGE difference in… life.  A clean sink is a major benefit for my psyche.

My life changed when I started this goal- get my dishes done every night, no matter what!
Washing dishes for a better tomorrow!

It’s not actually about the dishes

When I come downstairs to make breakfast in the morning and stare into my beautiful, clear sink, the entire day becomes more manageable.  The clear sink, in this case, represents my clear mind.  I’m free to brew coffee, fill the Brita pitcher, make breakfast, run water.  But I’m also feeling the pride of sticking to a commitment.  Between my husband and I, the dishes are getting done every single night.  That requires a level of discipline we didn’t really have before.

I’m guessing, if you’re looking for solutions to life’s messy problems, that discipline isn’t something that’s super high in your skill set either.  That’s nothing to feel bad about.  I feel like the laziest, most undisciplined person of all time sometimes.  The key to changing your attitude is to change your method.  And that’s what today’s freebie is all about.

Creating daily accountability

The goal you’re working on right now is one small piece of your daily pie.  You picked one thing about your life that made you unhappy, and now we’re going to fix it.  Most likely, you picked something that you do (or don’t do and want to start doing) every single day.  That’s a good idea!  Making something a habit is much easier if you incorporate it into your regular pattern or routine.  That’s what today’s freebie is here to help with- daily implementation.

A bubble a day…

The cheat sheet allows you to fill in one bubble every day you complete your goal.  We had a tracker for our dishes right on the kitchen refrigerator.  It was there, staring at us, telling us to do that job.  This sheet will be the same tool for you, but there’s a couple important things you need to do to be successful with your tracker:

  1. Keep it near where you are completing your goal.  This could be tricky, depending on what your goal is.  If there really is no convenient place to keep it (if your goal is happening outside your home or in a few different places within your home), then keep it right by your bed.  Tape it to the wall in your bedroom if you have to, and tape a writing implement right next to it so that you always have something to use to fill it in.
  2. This is so dorky, but it helps me to have a special pen that I use to fill in my tracker.  I don’t really know why, it just makes me happy!  Find something like this for yourself.  Maybe you don’t like pens, but maybe you do like stickers!  Find a special sheet of stickers at the dollar store or in the dollar section at Target to use only on your bubble sheet.  Sometimes a simple incentive is all you need to give yourself that extra bit of motivation.
  3. The final element to success with a bubble sheet is the hardest- commitment.  You are making an agreement with yourself that you’re going to complete this goal, and you’re using your bubble sheet to track your success, but you’ll have nothing to track if you don’t do what you need to do.

There were nights when the very last thing I wanted to do was the dishes.  But I looked at my tracker, and I thought about how I would feel in the morning, when I came downstairs to a dirty sink.  My husband and I had made a commitment to stick to something.   No one could do it for us- we had to do it.

Achieving a goal takes patience and time!
Give yourself time to achieve your goal!

Building habits takes time!

Filling in your bubbles could take some real willpower for the first two weeks, maybe even three.  When I was in school, the theory was if you did something 14 days in a row, it would become a habit.  I think they have since revised that number to 21 days.  That’s why I give myself 28 days, pretty much an entire month.  I remember thinking somewhere around day 17 of our dishes goal that it felt like routine.  It felt easy, it felt do-able, and it got done.  We’re also doing other things we never used to do like wiping down counter tops and sweeping the floor!

Break down your goal even more

However, looking at an entire month of commitment to something could probably still be too daunting.  If the idea of one month doesn’t bother you, great, but if it does, then it’s important to break down your mindset even further.  Imagine, for the time being, that you are only going to do your goal for one week.  Once that’s in your head, that temporary timeline should give you the freedom to complete those seven bubbles.  Is a week still too long?  Commit to three days.  Then another three days, and so on, and so forth.  And if you are truly having an impossible time after that first week, then it is time to go back to the drawing board and re-assess your goal.  More about that in my next post. For now, don’t forget to download the freebie.

Each new day brings the promise of a fresh start to complete your goal!
Wake up and try again!

Tomorrow is another day…

You may still miss a day in your first week or two.  It’s very important not to beat yourself up if that happens.  You are allowed to have life intervene, you are allowed to forget, you are allowed to get distracted.  Just get back on the horse.  Your bubble sheet will help you to stay on track, but it is not a magic wand.  Don’t give up on yourself.  You picked this goal for a reason- you want to make a positive change in your life!  Take a deep breath, start over again if you have to, and keep going.  And leave me a comment or send me a message to tell me how you’re doing and how it’s going!  I can’t wait to hear from you!

Life Change: A Step-by-step Plan!

A Life Change Plan

 

This summer, I took two online courses that really changed my life- the best part? They were both free!  The first course I took is Rosemarie Groner’s 90 Day Budget Boot Camp.  The second course I took is Ruth Soukup’s Crushing It Mini Course.  The first question on the Mini-Course worksheet was an eye-opener for me.  It asks, “The Current Way You Describe Yourself”.  Here is what I wrote:

This is how I used to describe myself! See what I did to change it!
“I feel like a mess!”

I look at those words and I want to go back in time and give myself a hug.  But I was right; I was a mess.  Every day felt chaotic and out of control.  My first step was obvious: our spending had gone wildly out of control.  We went $500 over our budget one month.  I had to repair the damage done to our savings account.  We were going broke!

The Start of Something New

If you pick one goal and work towards it, you can build the momentum you need to keep making other changes, too.  All you need is the smallest taste of victory and the incentive to continue will take hold!  But where do you want to start?  That’s where my freebie comes in:

You probably have a loooong list of things that you don’t like about your life right now.  This kind of life change, the permanent, habit-building kind, takes time.  That’s where this worksheet comes in.  Pick your top five things you like the least about your life right now, and write them down.

Next, narrow your focus:

I can tell you from experience, trying to fix all 5 things at once will NEVER work.  It’s too drastic.  It would require a kind of discipline and stamina that we just don’t have.  And that’s okay!  This is a “long-con”, something that will happen over many months.  You WILL tackle all five of these goals.  But right now, you have to pick one.  I knew I had to fix our family budget, because, hello, $500.  If you are having trouble picking your first priority from your list, use these rules as a guideline:

  1. You should choose something that needs to change because it’s causing you stress.  You will be very invested in changing this because it is making your life miserable. OR:
  2. You should choose something that you are excited about and really want to do.

These two things might not be mutually exclusive- I was excited to start Budget Boot Camp and I needed it.  But you must follow one of the above rules.  For your first goal, you want to pick something that you have a high probability of accomplishing (remember what I said about tasting victory?).  You don’t want to pick something that you’re not willing to commit to 100 percent.  It won’t end well, and you will just add it to your list of “failed life experiments”.  Pick the thing that lights a fire in your brain.  Then, you need to figure out the HOW.  How can you make this change work?

What resources do you need to start this goal?

How do I find the resources I need to set, maintain or track a goal? Google is my first stop!
A Google Search is a great place to start!

I found Rosemarie in a google search!  If you need help or resources, google is a great place to start.  But don’t just pick the first thing you land on- if you’re choosing an online course, look for testimonials from other people who were in similar situations to yours.  Look for FREE things first- even if you are not on a super strict budget, there is good reason to try to be practical and wallet-friendly. Number one, because there are some incredible free things out there (see my examples above), and number two because you don’t need to stress yourself out by spending a bunch of money on something and creating a sense of “obligation” in yourself to see it through- thereby decreasing your enjoyment of the entire process.

Find the tool you want to use to help yourself.  If you need something basic, like a habit tracker, look in Pinterest (there are about a million free printables that help with goal-setting and habit tracking).  Look for a Facebook group and seek out an accountability partner.  Check your local “Community Education” website and see what they have to offer; if you want to start a new hobby, there are probably a few courses that might be reasonably priced.  It’s a chance to try something new and meet some people along the way!

Life Change: Step-by-Step

Making change starts with a step-by-step plan!
Create your checklist!

I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but it’s important: write out each step of your plan.  No step is too small.  If you need more room or spaces, print out another copy of the second page of my printable and write in more steps.  The more detail you have, the better.  I’m not re-inventing the wheel here- anyone who talks about goal-setting will tell you that achieving your goal is all about breaking it down.  It allows you to see the path.

Nothing is Set in Stone

Sometimes, when you are setting a goal or starting a project, you think it’s going to go one way, and… quite frankly, it goes another way completely.  If you are on unsure footing here- if you are attempting something really new and different and you’re a little scared- first, good!  That means you are picking the right thing!  And second, give yourself a deadline in the near future to re-evaluate your progress and change your steps if things aren’t working the way you want them to.  I recommend between one week and one month, depending on what your goal is.

DO NOT EXPECT PERFECTION

Sorry, I know capital letters can get pedantic and annoying but I had to make that point loud and clear.  If your new goal is something you want to do every single day, like drink more water or exercise, you need to build up the stamina and the habit over time.  My next post is all about 28 day goals, but for now, what’s most important is that you give yourself tons of patience.  Every day is a chance to try again.  If you miss a day of your goal, or a step in your plan, then those are the things to re-evaluate at your deadline.  The best question you can ask is, “how can I help myself?”  If you’re ever stuck on what to do next, that is the first and best place to start.

TREAT YOURSELF

This part is really important, too, but I need to set a couple of ground rules:

  1. Your reward should be reasonable– if you are trying to stick to a budget, blowing your hard work on something you can’t afford that will put you further into debt is definitely not a good idea.  Set a budget for your reward and stick to it.
  2. Get creative.  What is something you haven’t done in a long time that would really make you happy?  This doesn’t necessarily have to be something that costs money.  If it’s been a long time since you got to sit on your computer and play The Sims for a couple hours, then maybe that’s the perfect treat!
  3. Get your husband/wife/SO/Partner on board.  Their support can mean the difference between success and failure.  They will also be very excited to enjoy your reward with you if it’s something fun like a dinner date or a trip to Target.
  4. The most obvious rule- pick something that you are very, very excited about.  If you really want it, you’re gonna work hard to get it!

That’s it!  Go forth and set your first, awesome, life-changing goal!  Don’t forget to download the freebie!

Write to me and tell me what you’re doing!  I want to hear all about your plan, help you if you have questions, and give you a big, virtual high-five!  Let’s celebrate this new beginning together!